the high cost of divorce
Most of you will know about two prominent divorce settlement cases that were considered by the Law Lords last week. I find it fascinating stuff ... the aggrieved husbands are having to dig deeper into their pockets to stump up huge amounts of dosh, subject of course to the outcome of their appeal. You can read more about it here. My heart bleeds for the poor blokes. :) One of the husbands made an interesting point ... if his wife had sustained severe brain injuries, the maximum compensation she would have received in the law courts, would have been £2 million pounds. After 3 years of marriage, one of the women was awarded a payout of £5 million. The Law Lords have decreed that women in their situation should receive compensation for giving up their own careers, keeping home for him and raising their children – compensation being a new idea it seems. One counter-argument I heard on the radio this week was, "Well, they did choose to do so". And then there’s a question of pre-nups. Would you sign one, if you were about to marry someone better off than yourself? Perhaps that someone has got an ex-husband/wife or children, and wishes to ring-fence some of the dosh for them? I suppose signing a pre-nup is a reasonable idea, even though it doesn’t carry a great deal of legal weight in this country. But it’s not very romantic is it? “Now repeat after me ... with this pre-nup, I thee wed.”
Why is it that some men can't pee straight?
Yes, I asked that question in Zoe's comments box 1-2 days ago. Why do some men pee onto the floor rather than into the urinal bowl, I wonder? And if it's because they're hitting the toilet bowl rim, then their pee will be splashing all over their trouser legs. There was one particularly bad place in Nottingham, where there was no ventilation, and where it was excessively hot. The floor felt sticky to walk on, and the smell was bad too. I say "was", because someone has been in recently, cleaned it well and left the window open. It's the Gents' loo on the second floor of the Central Library. So I return to my question, "Why is it that some men can't pee straight?". Are they pissed as newts (or "nished as pewts", as one of my friends used to say), or they stoned on drugs, or have they got exceptionally bad hand tremor, so bad that they wiggle their willies all over the place?
I'm a blogslut
Yes, I own up. I'm a blogslut. I like looking at other folks' blogs... and I enjoy adding comments on their blogs and vice versa. That's what makes blogging more interesting than writing a diary, n'est-ce pas? Well I did a spot of blogslutting the other day, and came across Greg's, who writes about life in Australia. Last month he wrote a very funny post: "I blog, therefore I am". (Hope you don't mind my quoting this one, Greg). Yes, in an odd way, I feel that to be very true. Blogging is a kind of extension of my own personality, and helps me reach out to contact other people .... something that I enjoy doing. Looking back at my childhood, I was very introverted and shy ... basically socially inept. As I've said before, I think, I still have difficulty getting a conversation going with complete strangers, but once I get going I can chat on for ages. On the introversion-extroversion scale, I now feel I'm midway. I could happily spend all day on this computer, doing various things, but after a while I feel like a change, and feel an urge to get out and meet other people. I'll stop there as midnight is approaching. I'll post one of my rhododendron photos, which I took last year at Lea Gardens in Derbyshire (not far from Chatsworth).
Nottingham in the news again
Well, what do you know, Nottingham has been in the news yesterday for its high level of criminal activity. Well, surprise, surprise – we have to live up to our reputation as the home town/county for Robbin Hood and his Merry Men. Hardly a day goes by when I don’t see shootings in the main city streets - people staggering out of the city bars riddled with bullet holes, and dropping dead in the street. It’s like the Wild West here. Gunfights galore, with frequent re-enactments of the final showdown in “High Noon”. I recommend to you the window seats in the glass- fronted café at the Central Methodist Mission on Parliament Street - an excellent viewing point. Good trade as usual for the local undertakers and the coffin makers … business is booming. And all the prostitutes, pimps and drug dealers loitering round the city streets, waiting for business, and waving their ASBOs at passing police cars. Tony Blair’s relaxation of the pub drinking hours hasn’t helped matters, as drunkenness is markedly on the increase. The city’s bad litter problem pales into insignificance. And what is the Sheriff of Nottingham doing about it? The only time I saw him was about three years ago, when he opened Nottingham’s Goose Fair (dressed in ceremonial costume). What are we paying him for? Why doesn’t he get his act together and dress up like Wyatt Earp, and swagger down the streets fully armed, along with his deputies? Perhaps Nottingham should be renamed as Dodge City? Bring back hanging, I say, or "off with the goolies"!
mini baby boom
Not a lot happening today, apart from the "D-Day Landing"/implantation of the embryos into our daughter, L.. As RN said in the other day's comments box, there is a small baby boom happening in our family (and extended family) at the moment. So we are all feeling very excited. I've spent the past day or two working on another website, which I'm re-creating. It's challenging stuff and fun at the same time. I've had a lot of fun tinkering with this one, and have learned a little HTML along the way. This morning I spotted these lovely flowers on our dining room window-ledge, and photographed them. They are a variety of Busy Lizzie, which Mrs C has propagated and looked after in the past year or two.
Family news and crime drama
Well, we didn't go to Leeds yesterday. Our daughter S. sent us a text message at 7am to say she was unwell, and to ask us to postpone our visit. So we sat around in the morning feeling disappointed and at a loose end, and we filled the time with finishing off the Radio Times Crossword with the help of "oneacross dot com" - a very good website, but it has some limitations. By the way, the answer to the police TV series clue is "A Touch of Frost" - quite easy, if you like watching crime drama and David Jason, as we do. We had a couple of coffees while I had a go ordering a few books on amazon dot com, including three photography books for me, and a novel, "The Kite Runner" by Khaled Hosseini, for Mrs C. We find the reviews on amazon very helpful. Later on we called round to see our third daughter R., who lives on the other side of town (in Bramcote) with her husband K. R. is having her 20 week pregancy scan next week, so we're all getting excited about that. Incidentally, our second daughter L. is going for IVF blastocyst implantation tomorrow. Two out of a batch of 14 embyos will be chosen and the rest will be frozen - we all feel rather strange about that - the thought of potential human beings queing up for future implantation, or ending up being discarded. We're going down to London next weekend to stay with her while her partner is away. Here's some info about IVF ... L. and her partner are paying a bit more to have the embryos developed to the 5-day blastocyst stage, for a better chance of implantation. The wait for IVF treatment at her local London hospital is 2.5 years - she's on the waiting list for NHS treatment too.In the evening we watched the end of an episode of "The Inspector Lynley Mysteries" that we'd recorded last week. A somewhat feeble plot, a murder mystery set on the Cornish coast, and poor production I thought, almost like "Acorn Antiques", an old TV comedy series. Much better last week was "See No Evil: the Moors Murders" - a dramatic reconstruction of the murderous activites of Ian Brady and his partner Myra Hindley, set in the 1960s. The drama was mainly seen from the viewpoint of Myra's sister Maureen and her husband Dave Smith. Excellent writing, acting and production. We were left feeling shocked and sickened by programme - I could hardly speak afterwards. We've driven through the moorland where the murder victims were buried - it's a very bleak and desolate place. I'll end on a more cheerful note - a photo of our great-nephew, M, who is five weeks old. By the way, my photo-editing software is playing up. When you click on the photo on this blog to enlarge it, do you see a pop-up menu asking if you'd like to download the photo, together with a warning about potential viruses? This happened to me with the clematis photo but not with the previous photos. Weird. (Added later: I think the problem with the Inspector Lynley TV episode was the poor and improbable script, that the actors and the production team had to work with).
a fun day today
I've got to get up in about 7 hours' time, to pack up for our trip (car journey) to Leeds. It's a short distance from here to get to the motorway (M1), and then we just keep travelling in more or less a straight line to Leeds. Our daughter lives in the Horsforth area, which is about 85 miles north of here. I spent most of today socialising - coffee and peppermint tea with my friend B. at Costas at the bottom end of Friar Lane (my cappuccino was very nice ... I like it without the chocolate on top). This lunchtime one of our nieces called round with her 5 week old baby boy to see us (he looks really cute), and this evening we had a couple of friends around for wine, cheese and other nibbles. We listened to a couple of CDs (compilations), featuring an American jazz singer - Morgana King, various Beatles CDs, and a wonderful album called Bebel by Bebel Gilberto. Lastly, here is a photo of a lovely clematis, which is rambling over a garden wall not far from our house.
more flowers
Here are photos of a type of gorse and some rhododendrons that are out in bloom at the moment. It's rhododendron and azalea time in the UK - most of the large woodland parks and stately homes have masses of them. If the weather's good in Leeds this weekend, we'll head for Temple Newsam Park for the flower display and a good walk round. Oh dear, I've just checked the weather forecast for the weekend and it's going to be wet. Perhaps we'll go to the cinema or to the shops/cafes in Leeds. In the city centre we usually make a beeline for the Pasta Romagna - excellent home-made pasta and pizza, good coffee (though not quite as good as Betty's) and opera-style singing from the owner. You can imagine yourself in Italy there.....which reminds me to mention a brilliant Italian cafe in the middle of Covent Garden in London ... always very popular, and a nice place to sit down and relax.
“For money can’t buy me love”
I was sad to hear the news today that Sir Paul and Heather McCartney are separating after being married for four years. As you will have heard, they are blaming the intense media intrusion on their lives for the split-up. It must have been sheer hell for them. I recall reading about the trouble from the press and photographers that Robbie Williams has had, in Chris Heath’s biography of him. I won’t go into any detail here in case I were to infringe copyright, but it’s an interesting read. I’ve been a fan of Sir Paul over the years (and John Lennon even more so). I’ve been very impressed with his musicianship and his song- writing. I play electric guitar with a couple of friends once a month, and we usually play and sing a few Beatles songs every time. We’re the Fab Three. I’ve got a couple of Japanese Fender Strats and a Gordon Smith blues guitar, BTW. McCartney is staggeringly wealthy as you all know, but I wonder how happy he is? Can money buy you happiness and lasting love? Was he just unlucky this time as regards the person he chose to marry? I’ll post a few photos of local gardens and flowers over the next few days. Here’s a lovely garden which is near to where I live, and which stretches some distance down the hillside at the back.
a busy day (well not really)
I took the car in for a minor service this morning ... to a garage (Vic Herbert's) at the top of the nearby hill, which is the highest in Nottingham. I asked for the car battery and the alternator to be checked over (and other things), as I'm having to put the trickle charger on overnight to make sure the car will start up the following day. We're using the car less and less these days, only for an occasional big shopping trip, visits to relatives, and for when we go on holiday in the UK . Next weekend we're going up to Leeds to stay with our fourth daughter and her partner, and in three week's time we're having a week's break in Cromer on the Norfolk coast, travelling by car. I had two lovely walks through leafy suburbia to get from and to the garage, and I took a load of photos on the second trip, in the hazy sunshine. I'll put up some of my photos onto this blog this coming week - I haven't had time to look through them, as I've been busy doing other things. As Parkinson said, and I think it's very true, "Work expands to fill the time available for its completion". It's easy to find things to do in retirement .... activities like blogging, for example .... and it's even easier to postpone other things that need doing. I'm an expert in procrastination, a brilliant habit I picked up from my dad. And if you wait long enough, sometimes a problem will go away or it will get sorted by someone else. :)
smoked salmon again
I thought I'd try out taking a photo of the smoked salmon salad just before we sat down to eat it the other day. I haven't had much success with taking photos of my culinary efforts, but this one turned out better than most - I took it in rather subdued natural light. Our kitchen window is north-facing, and it was cloudy outside. I put about 100g of smoked salmon on this for the two of us (plus three eggs), which was ample. The cats didn't get a look-in, as regards any left-overs.
Football and our cats
I was in Tesco Metro yesterday lunchtime, which was very busy around the tills, but almost deserted like the Marie Celeste, in the wine and beer section at the back of the shop. I said to the sole shelf-stacker, "It's very peaceful here, isn't it?" "Yes," she replied, "all the men will be at home watching the Cup Final!" With hindsight I think that was a sexist remark, as a lot of women would have done the same. I switched on the TV later in the afternoon, in time to see the last 15 minutes of the second half and the penalty shoot-out, plus lots of action re-plays of the earlier goals. Fantastic play. I've enjoyed having the company of our two cats while Mrs C's been away. They are very friendly, but rather shy of strangers. I took a couple of photos of them on the top floor of our house (the warmest part of the house). The first one is of Slayer, who was sitting in a fairly dark corner - I was near the top of the stairs with my camera at carpet-level. She had distanced herself from the camera (I don't think she likes the red focussing light). Her sister Miss D is not so camera-shy, but by this time was snoozing in her high-tech cat bed (obtained from Lidl nearby). It's funny how cats love to sleep in cardboard boxes, even squeezing themselves into small ones, rather than kip on the carpet. Do you like cats?
sex, wine and smoked salmon salad
I'm on my own this weekend, as Mrs C has gone off to Coventry (University of Warwick) with a couple of her friends. She attending a conference all about the brain and sex - a very interesting subject. As I've mentioned before, I enjoy having sex more, if we're both emotionally involved and excited. Gone are the days when I enjoyed having a "quickie". I think either my testosterone levels are dropping off, or I've "matured" as time's gone by, in the sense that I appreciate the quality of experience more than the quantity. It's a bit like drinking and appreciating better quality wines ... in my younger days, I might have drunk anything (apart from paint-stripper), but now I'd be prefer drinking half to one glass of a good quality Shiraz. Returning to the sex theme, I find that alcohol has a detrimental effect on my sexual performance ... even half a glass of wine can have a bad effect, so I keep off the booze some nights! It's a sign that I'm getting older. How to spend the rest of today? Well, if I was really "good", I would be getting out the paint pots and brushes as our hallway badly need a make-over. But I've got a few minor jobs to do this morning - a quick walk into town to transfer some money between accounts (Mrs C and I are about to take out a mini-cost ISA with the Post Office) and to get some mixed leaf lettuce from Tesco for tomorrow evening's meal. Mrs C has requested that I make up a smoked salmon salad, which is one of our favourites meals (and excellent party food too).... Jamie Oliver did this on one of his TV programmes a few years ago .....here's the recipe for you (the quantities up to you)... Boiled new potatoes ... halved/quartered (and served slightly warm) Lettuce ... any type you like. Watercress & rocket optional Half an avocado per person, cut into big chunks (prepare this last minute and sprinkle a little lemon juice on top to stop the avocado turning black) One and a half hard-boiled eggs per person... rapidly cool the eggs after boiling them, in cold running water, to stop the egg yolks turning black at the edges (my mother's tip). Any other salad stuff you like ... sliced vine tomatoes, cucumber, red pepper, radish, spring onion or chives, and any herby stuff you like (eg a little parsley) A salad dressing, eg the Pizza Express Dressing, which is our favourite. A good squeeze or two of lemon juice Good quality smoked salmon, cut up into small pieces. So all you do is layer up the salad and potato in a large shallow serving dish, put the egg and avocado on top, and then strips of smoked salmon, a little bit of parsley, then a drizzle of the dressing and the lemon juice. Absolutely sensational.... MMmmm...MMmmmm. All served up with a glass of chilled white wine ... well, perhaps a quarter of a glass for me.... and some honey-dew melon for afters.
Depth of field
I've spent some time today looking up articles on the internet on photography - depth of field in particular. I've noticed with my present camera, the Canon 350DSLR, that I'm having more problems getting the depth of field right in a lot of my shots (compared with my previous one, the Olympus C-5060). I've been using the automatic exposure settings on my camera so far, and have yet to try out varying the aperture-priority mode settings ... partly due to laziness on my part and partly ignorance also. I've learned today that using a smaller aperture (but higher f number) will increase the depth of field, with generally better results, though this is not always the case. What I need to do next is to buy a small handbook on how to handle this camera (I've got one in mind by Charlotte Lowrie). I will have a look at Amazon straightaway after this. In the past few days I've been taking lots more photos... here are a couple of my better ones. You will see that the forget-me-nots towards the back on the left hand side are slightly out of focus, owing to limited depth of field. However, I'm pleased with how this photo turned out. The yellow rambling rose belongs to our neighbours, but it's cascading over into our garden ... it's a huge splash of colour in the corner of our garden.
lovely trees
I just love trees. I'm so pleased to be living in an area where there are lots of them. And of course, trees attract birds, and it's lovely to hear the bird song. The downside of living in an area like Mapperley Park is having to sweep up lots of leaves in the Autumn, and putting up with the grey squirrels. The squirrels go for the bird food, and are fond of digging up and eating bulbs you've just planted out in the garden. I went through a phase of trapping the buggers, and then releasing them a few miles away in parkland .... that is until I read on the internet that they have a homing instinct like pidgeons, and can find their way home within a 25 mile radius. So we don't put out much bird food these days, and the squirrels are now less of a nuisance. Coming back to the subject of trees, I find treeless landscapes and treeless suburbia dull and depresssing. I quite like visiting moorland however, but only for a short time ... I start to feel isolated, and somewhat threatened by it, especially in cold bleak weather. Once I've seen an expanse of heather, some sheep and some sheep droppings, I've had enough. I feel the same in the vast treeless areas of fenland too. It's been a lovely warm and sunny day today ... just right for walking outside. Lots of flowers and shrubs are out in bloom, with brilliant colours and scents.... wonderful. I'm putting on a couple of tree photos. The cherry blossom is coming to the end now, but this tree is still smothered in pinkish white flowers. I took the second tree photo just round the corner from where I live, earlier this evening.
Victor Meldrew - may he rest in peace
The BBC have just started a re-run of the 1990s TV sitcom, One Foot in the Grave. The main characters were Victor Meldrew, a Mr Negative, who was forcibly retired from work and who moaned about everything in life, and his long suffering wife, Margaret, who had to put up with his rants. I've watched a couple of the early episodes, during which Victor complained about the litter in his garden. "I counted two Twix wrappers in our garden this morning," he complained to his wife. "Where do they all come from? Planet Twix?" I too complain from time to time about the amount of rubbish people leave behind in our street... empty MacDonald's cartons, cigarette packets, crisp packets, beer cans, etc, etc.. Oh, and the occasional used condom .... not very nice. Most Friday mornings I spend about 20 minutes clearing all the rubbish, just before the bin men come. The neighbours cheer me on! "You've missed a bit there!" said one of them, leaning out her car window as she was driving by. Fortunately we're not prone to doggy doos - in our neighbourhood, the dog owners are good at clearing the stuff up. In our last house (a Victorian gatehouse in Nottingham, not far away from where we are now), a passing car driver threw out poo parcels in small poly bags. The poos were all neatly wrapped in half sheets of tabloid newspaper, but they were not so nice to clear up when another car ran over them and squashed them flat. We thought the poos were probably human in origin, as they didn't smell like doggy doos (hope you're not eating anything at the moment). A family friend thought that the culprit might have been autistic, to account for such behaviour. Fortunately for us we haven't had any poo parcels our way. If my daughter L. were to read this, she'd say, "Get a life"!
A trip to the dentist
I was about to set off to see my dentist this morning for my annual check-up, when the car wouldn't start.... the battery was flat! I phoned the receptionist straightaway to ask if I would be seen if I turned up 15 minutes late. "No way", was the reply - my dentist is a strict time-keeper. I got out my old bicycle, but the tyre pump wouldn't work... it wasn't my day today. However when I called a local taxi firm, the taxi came fairly quickly and took me to the dentist's in 6 minutes, just in time. Needless to say I had to wait 15 minutes to be seen, as the dentist had taken in someone who'd arrived early. I'm beginning to sound like Victor Meldrew! Yesterday I noticed a tiny chip in my right lower canine tooth (chipped when I chomped on a boiled sweet rather stupidly). My dentist confirmed the damage and said that a filling very close by was crumbling, and that it should be replaced. I paid £15.50 in advance for the check-up, but was told that the bill would rise to £42.40 for the additional work required. These are the new NHS rates, but a lot cheaper than private rates of course. I decided to walk home (along Porchester Road, Woodborough Road and down through Mapperley Park), which took me 45 minutes .... a pleasant stroll. The rain set in later in the day.
John Gibson sculpture
I look at Jean’s blog “ This too” from week to week, and was interested to see her photos of a lovely sculpture called “Delicatesse” by John Gibson. (See her post for Friday 28 April). A couple of years ago I did a bit of research on another Gibson sculpture called “Hylas surprised by Nymphs”, which I found on a saleroom website, along with its provenance. For many years this sculpture was in the main hallway of the Liverpool Institute School for Girls, aka Blackburne House, which was attended by my mum and her sister. My mum was very fond of this sculpture. When she was writing a biography of one of her schoolteachers, she was given a photo of the hallway by another old pupil, which she included in the biography. The schoolteacher, Gladys Imlach, led a totally secret life as described by Anthony Sampson in “The Scholar Gypsy”. So here is a copy of the old photo, dated November 1922, (which I've touched up), followed by my photo, taken on a boiling hot day last May. The school used to be the home of a Liverpool magnate (and Lord Mayor), John Blackburne, and is now a FE college for women.
A few flowers
Well, I thought I'd put up a few more photos from our Mallorca trip. The first two were taken in Cala d'Or, and the last one is a view of a garden, close to the cathedral in Palma. As regards the rambling succulent with mauve flowers, I don't know what its name is ... it looks like a Livingstone Daisy. If the climate in the UK were to become more like a Mediterranean one, as some people predict, then I look forward to growing plants like this, and seeing orange and lemon trees around too. The other daisy like flowers are Osteospermums, which grow here also. It's been sunny and hot here in the East Midlands, the last three days, with a gorgeous slightly sweet smell of flowers in the air ... the smell is probably from fields of oil seed rape being grown a few miles away from here.
Visit to La Granja in Mallorca
On our way back to Palma, on our day trip to the North West of Mallorca,Mrs C and I spent a couple of hours looking round a large country house called La Granja (which is near Esporlas). A really beautiful house, set in lush green surroundings - like a mini-version of Chatsworth. There's some info about the history of the place here. When we arrived there was some traditional dancing to live music, and there were several people re-enacting various rural crafts. The house had a lived-in feel to it...it didn't feel like the average British stately home (which often feel like mausoleums to me)... and it was buzzing with visitors and staff. So here a few more photos of the place for you. In tomorrow's post, I'll attach a few flower photos.
North-west Mallorca
Mrs C and I spent a day motoring around the North-West of Majorca. It was a hot sunny day (possibly around 24 deg C), with a little cloud at times. We went via Palma to Valdemossa, and then up the coast to Soller. Later in the day, we went back down the coast to visit La Granja (nr Esporalas). We had hoped to visit Deia on the way (made popular by Robert Graves and his friends), but there was no car parking available (about a dozen spaces for cars in all). Oh well, we'll stop off next time we go to the island (at a much earlier time of day). Valdemossa was very pretty - one of the ten must-see places on the island ... a beautiful monastery with a large garden, and lots of cafes for refreshments. I'm putting on a link to Wikipedia, if you fancy checking out the history of the place - this includes a cold and wet 3 month stay that Chopin and his partner George Sand had, when they overwintered there in 1838. He had TB at the time, and his piano never arrived. The road to Soller from there was very scenic, but not very nice to drive along (lots of hairpin bends). Soller had lots of lovely trees, cafes, some interesting architecture, and an old electric tram system - the trams looked quaint. I've put on this blog a few photos of the above, and I'll put on some of La Granja tomorrow. (the monastery tower)
Arta in Mallorca
We spent one hot and windy day driving North to see Arta, a small town with a hilltop fortress and chapels (with lovely views of the countryside from the top), and then we drove back along the coastal road, and saw some holiday towns on the way (too much modern development). I didn't get any brilliant photos of Arta itself (as the midday sun was too strong), but here a few of the ones I took.... palm trees in the centre, a shop sign (the shop sold Moorish furniture and ornaments), and an arty shop selling motifs to put up on your walls .... that reminds me of the flying ducks that Jack and Vera Duckworth used to have on their living room wall (in Coro)... anyone remember those?
Coastal views of Mallorca
I've selected a few shots of the coastline, the first one being a view of the small beach at Cala d'Or which was fairly close to us. The next two were taken at one of the main beauty spots on the island, at a large house called Son Marroig, formerly owned by an archduke. I took one of the photos with my camera pointing towards the sun (which accounts for its poorer quality).
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