Love, love me do ...
Dr Raj Persaud speaking on the Richard & Judy chat show recently
told us that one of the main factors that helped glue relationships
together was agreeableness, and he gave one example of this ... when
a woman asks: “Does my bum look big in this?”, the agreeable bloke
would say: “Yes, you look great in that dress”, even if her bum
(But does agreeableness mean boring, I ask you?).
The two other main factors were passion and intimacy … talking to one
another about your feelings, both good and bad.
If you’ve only got two out of the three main factors, then things
could still work out well for you, but if you’ve only got one of them,
then your relationship probably won’t last long.
I’ve mentioned the following in a previous blog – that I asked my dad
what he thought was the secret for a long lasting relationship (his
marriage had been rocky at times), and he said just one word …
Mrs C and I were chatting about all this over tonight’s evening
meal (she’s a relationship counsellor, by the way), and she
remarked that a lot of young people she’d talked to in recent
years felt that having several long term relationships in a
lifetime would be the norm for them … so younger peoples’
expectations appear to be somewhat different from us older folk
… not just different but perhaps more realistic?
Perhaps the marriage vows should be changed / reworded to something
like this ….
“... to have and to hold, from this day forth,
... until we get sick of the sight of each other …”
… and at the same time, we should do away with all the wedding
paraphernalia, and just have a great party instead.
Mrs C and I didn’t do anything special on Valentine’s Day this year
… we didn’t exchange any cards or pressies, or do anything special
in the evening. "Shame on you!", I hear you saying.
I did offer to get some perfume for her (to be pre-chosen by her,
as she’s very particular about what scents she’ll wear), but she
said she’d like some perfume later in the year. So instead,
we’ve decided to have a romantic meal out, one evening very soon.
And thinking about shared treats, we’re going on holiday to
Tenerife at the end of this week, so this may be my last blog
until we get back at the end of Feb.. The weather forecast is
looking very good … some lovely warm sunshine due this coming week
.. and no doubt a romantic evening meal or two.
Talk to you soon.